Some parents may feel that this is very stressful, but it is more stressful on the child. It is not a child’s dream to wake up in the middle of night in wet pyjamas and soaking sheets. Understand that your child is not doing this to rebel or go against you. Over reacting about the incidents would only make the situation and the problem worse.

Here are some things that parents should say or do when dealing with their bed wetting kids.

1. Reassurance is important. Children may be disappointed when they cannot control their pee. They may feel frustrated since they think that they are the only ones who are still wetting their bed. Bed wetting children may feel isolated at times, since they could not go to sleepovers or camps because of their bed wetting. Make your child understand on how common bed wetting is among children; it is just that most children are embarrassed to talk about it. You could even share a story of another bedwetter of the family who was able to get over it.

Maintain communication with your kid

2. Keep your child’s self-image intact. During this stage, your child may feel that he has disappointed you and himself. Keep the accidental night time wetting in perspective. Motivate your kid to do better.

3. You could do some motivational peeing. This would involve your child visualizing himself getting up in the middle of the night and relieving himself. Cheer him up, you could drop a kiss and a word motivating him to stay dry through the night.

4. You could also play pretend. There are some children who do not bed wet when they are sleeping in other homes which mean that they cannot achieve the deep sleep in sleepovers. You could ask your child to pretend that they are sleeping in other people’s house and imagine that they would be dry in the morning. Eventually, the child would have dry nights at home when his mind and body connection matures.

5. Never fall into the bad patterns. Avoid nagging your child about bed wetting.

6. Having your child participate in sheet changing could surely make the process faster, however do not make sheet changing a sentence or a punishment. You could still involve then with sheet changing as long as they are up for it.

7. Do not punish. Treat bed wetting as a no-big-deal. Do not scold or ground him from any activities. Kids would mature and eventually outgrow bed wetting. Just make sure that you make your child understand that you are meant on helping him stay dry.

8. Maintain communication with your child. You may even be looking for a possibility of emotional stress as a cause of bed wetting.

There are different causes of nocturnal enuresis or bed wetting. But its most common causes are neurological or developmental delays and family history. Medical reasons are least common but possible causes. There are also studies showing that bed wetting can also be caused by stress. Although, stress is not the identified cause of primary enuresis or bed wetting since infancy, it could be attributed with secondary enuresis or reverting to night time wetting.

Emotional neglect could cause bedwetting

Children have different ways and methods of adapting to changes in their social relationships and environment. The changes could be minor or major, but these changes could be stressful to kids. Stress could happen if there is an additional member of the family like a new baby. Moving to a new home, bullying, divorce, and even death could cause stress among children.

Aside from these situations which could put stress to a child, emotional neglect could also be a cause of bed wetting. If a child is neglected or lack emotional stability, nighttime accidents could happen as response to the stress and anxiety.

If you have determined that stress has caused the child to return to bed wetting, then you would be able to address the issue. Once you have identified that stress is the reason, then talk to your doctor if getting your child see a psychologist would be suitable for the situation.

However, never assume that just because your child reverted to nighttime accidents means that he is under stress. There could be incidents in school and at home but may not be the reason. It is always safer to check with a doctor first, to get rid or overrule medical reasons.

If stress is indeed the cause of bed wetting, then you could also ask help from the members of the family. The family could show the child that they are there to support him or her. Enlist everyone in the family to help in guiding the bedwetter in the evening to avoid bed wetting. Bed wetting could interfere with some social activities, however, letting your child participate in some overnight activities could actually help and encourage your child to pursue with the night time training.

There are some experts who have pointed out that bed wetting could be a “vicious” cycle. If stress causes the child to wet the sheets, this could also cause serious stress to the parents. Stressed out parents could distress children more and even make the situation worse. There are studies showing that punishing and shaming children because of bed wetting could actually, increase nighttime accidents. This would eventually lead to more punishment and shaming. This could cause serious problems with the child’s confidence and self-esteem.